Someone I know asked me today why I’m single (which I’m betting is the one question single people hate answering when put on the spot) and I thought about it for a second… I’ve been single for about 3-quarters of a year now and not really whining about it or sad about it or unhappy about it at all. Even up to a year or so ago I thought that being single was awful and lonely and wanted so badly to be with someone but this year I learned how to be really happy alone. I love going out by myself, I like dolling up and taking the time to do my hair and nail polish and put on a fun outfit and take myself out once in a while, and when I do want to be with someone I learned that it’s fairly easy to call up an equally-single-but-not-into-something-more-serious guy friend and laugh and have fun together and it’s a fun single life. I also appreciate the fact that I’m so busy that my calendar often fills up a month and a half in advance with things I love doing so that I don’t even really have the time or space to be lonely, and when I do have some free time I like being selfish with it and not spending it with anyone but myself.
I took all of that into consideration and thought a bit more and told that person a real and honest answer - I’m single because I like being single right now and what I’ve learned from all my failed relationships in the past is that I do not want to settle for anyone or anything less than someone I respect and admire and want to be with with all my heart and soul, and I just haven’t met that person yet. Until then I will keep doing things I love doing and keep growing as a person. And I will never make the same mistakes twice ever again. :)
